---How To Get Out Of The Friends With Benefit Zone---
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Guys are always talking about the dreaded friend zone. That situation where a man likes a woman but she just wants to be friends. So he hangs around like a sad puppy dog, hoping she’ll change her mind.
Well I’m here to tell you that this happens to girls too, but oftentimes it’s a bit different. I call it the Friends With Benefits Zone and I’m here to tell you how to know if he’s putting you there and how you can get out.
Hi there Youtube, I’m Amy North, relationship expert and dating coach from the west coast of Canada. It’s my mission to show women how to get the relationships they deserve and often this means making the guys they’re already with see them differently.
So what is the Friends With Benefits Zone? Simply put, when a man friendzones a girl, he’ll often sleep with her because he knows he can. He doesn’t want to be in a relationship with her, doesn’t want to make an effort, and won’t treat her right. But he likes to have her around for the companionship, and unlike many women who put guys in the friendzone, he’ll sleep with her as well.
This can be confusing and blur the line between friendship and dating. You’ll know that you’re in the Friends with benefits zone if you only see him late at night, can’t get a straight answer out of him about your relationship, and don’t ever go out on proper dates. Guys who do this will often go cold or suddenly go into “just friends” mode, only getting romantic or sexual when they feel like it. If this sounds like your situation, I’ll tell you what you need to do to change how he treats you and get some answers in the relationship.
First, don’t be a booty call. If he calls you late at night for sex and you’re there no matter what, he won’t feel like he has to work for it. Like it or not, a lot of guys will do the bare minimum for a hookup if you let them. But these same guys will often rise to the occasion if you raise your standards and stop giving into their every whim.
If he calls you or text you late at night, don’t answer. If he wants to make plans for a quickie and then disappear, tell him you’re busy. But that you can do something later in the week, during the day, and suggest something that’s less likely to lead to sex and more like the kind of date you want and deserve. Often this is all it takes for guys to get the message that they have to do better.
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Make him miss you. If you’re always available to him, he won’t value you. Think of it like christmas dinner. It’s something you look forward to every year. Is turkey and stuffing that delicious? No, it’s the fact that it comes around so infrequently that makes it truly special. Now, you’re not a turkey leg but the same principle applies. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Make him miss you by spending time apart if it feels like he’s taking you for granted.
Date other guys. Often the guy who put you in the friends with benefits zone likes the idea that you’re pining after him. He gets a sense of power from keeping women on the hook. This comes out of insecurity. With this in mind, dating, or even just spending time with other guys will make him fear that he might lose you for good. Turn the tables by playing the field a little and he’ll be crawling back to you before you know it.
There you have it, my top tips to escape the Friends With Benefits Zone. Have you or anyone you know had an experience like this with a guy? Were you able to turn it into something more or did it not work out? I want to hear your story in the comments below. Thanks for watching!