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Get Ready With Me | Too Independent for a Man?

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Get ready with me and hear ya girl talk all about independence and boundaries. Am I too independent? How did I gain independence? I’ve learned that if you have passion, you’ll figure out a way to make things work both dependently and independently. Do you boos think depending on one another in a relationship is a bad thing or a good thing? Let me know in the comments boos! SUBSCRIBE to my channel for the latest videos: http://goo.gl/AlZhsT ---------- 🎊✨😎 Get your #ShamelessSwag from my new store here: http://bit.ly/shamelessstore 😎✨🎊 ---------- PRODUCTS USED Face: Smashbox Primer: http://sbx.cm/2fhJZBU Clarsonic Makeup Applicator: http://bit.ly/2sNQiTE CoverFX Highlight: http://bit.ly/2sH9mrI CoverUp NYX Total Control Foundation: http://bit.ly/2krqiO7 Makeup Forever HD Loose Powder: http://seph.me/2qlBePO Tarte Blush: http://bit.ly/2uqnymb Katelyn Jenner Blush: http://bit.ly/2sNtMuk Eyes and Brows: Tartelette in Bloom Pallete: http://bit.ly/21b9cPH NYX Eye Liner: http://bit.ly/2pPfAA5 Marc Jacobs Gel Eye Pencil: http://seph.me/2pP1QWa Makeup forever Eyebrow Liner: http://seph.me/2rk1mrk Lips: MannyMUA - Ofra in Aries: http://bit.ly/2tqJZaF ---------- WATCH THESE VIDEOS What I Really Eat In A Day: http://bit.ly/mayafood How To Cornrow Braid Your Hair: http://bit.ly/baddiebraids 10 Exercises to Build A Butt: http://bit.ly/bootaywbae What I Eat to Lose Weight: http://bit.ly/foodieat How Being Shameless Changed My Life: http://bit.ly/yt5yr Yoga Challenge With My Boyfriend: http://bit.ly/omgyoga 9 Exercises For a Flat Stomach: http://bit.ly/omgflatstomach ---------- GET TO KNOW ME http://shamelessmaya.com http://instagram.com/mayasworld http://twitter.com/mayasworld http://shamelessmaya.tumblr.com https://www.facebook.com/shamelessmaya https://www.snapchat.com/add/mayasnapworld ---------- TEAM SHAMELESS! Executive Producer, Maya Washington Editor, Leah Perez http://bit.ly/shamelessleah House Of Shameless on Instagram: http://bit.ly/hosig ---------- GEEK INFO Camera: Canon 5D Mark lll: http://amzn.to/1pGoUX4 Audio: H5N Zoom Mic http://astore.amazon.com/mayasworld-20/detail/B00KCXMBES Editing: Premiere Pro ---------- SHOP MY TECH GEAR http://astore.amazon.com/mayasworld-20 *All Amazon links are affiliate links which means I get a kick back on commission if you buy :) ---------- FTC: Not Sponsored ---------- About Shameless Maya "What would happen if I shamelessly promoted myself for 365 days?" My channel started out as a social media experiment and now it's a lifestyle. I hope my journey from shame to shameless inspires you and others to not be ashamed of who you are and to share and celebrate that shamelessly. Here on my channel, you'll find videos on lifestyle, inspiration, fun transformations, techie vids for aspiring geeks, beauty, fashion, and so much more.
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IndigoAngel (29 days ago)
You are exactly what I need to hear at this time, Namaste 🙏
Jessica Ruiz (5 months ago)
I love your strength, it's inspiring! Love it 💚💚💚💜💜
QueenAnn TV (8 months ago)
Omg love your videos 😩 sitting here watching all of your old videos because I am in this same exact spot in this time of my life. Too relatable.
P0oDoll (1 year ago)
Being ABLE TO depend on one another is definitely necessary IMO. But depending on someone for everything, for an indefinite time... yea... that's not healthy (or realistic)
LitMe1 (1 year ago)
Seeing my mom having a pretty loveless marriage growing up, and then seeing her growth and just blossoming transition once she got divorced have me def think why you need a man by your side anyways if that man is just going to drain you? So yeah, today we as women dont need a man for financial stability, so a man better bring something extra to a relationship, still waiting for that someone though :P
Theplumberskids (1 year ago)
I have been married for 13 years. my hubby works and pays all the bills, and we go over all our finances. I am a stay-at-home mom of 3 kids and the dog. I take good care of the home and everyone's schedule. I am at a point in my life where I need to do something for myself, my kids are in school and I now can go to school or work. I have no regrets.
Spiritual Gita (1 year ago)
it's crazy becausw men are scarred to hell if they think u want them to help them in life but when they see u don't need them then they feel insecure #fragilemasculinity
UVK (1 year ago)
"you play a part of the problem...you chose to be in that position" wise words Maya wise words
Dove Daniels (1 year ago)
We love that you are independent. Gorgeous. Stay gorgeous...
Khyra A (1 year ago)
U can still be independent with a man 😃😀😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😆
Kswantejza Bias (1 year ago)
omg it's soo crazy how similar we both are in the love department I'm starting to find myself as well
Nancy (1 year ago)
how the heck she get those lashes on so easily?
Charlie Brown (1 year ago)
😍💜🖤
Nia Lestat (1 year ago)
❤️
marcela gomez (1 year ago)
Always beautiful and smart Maya!!!!
malissa blake (1 year ago)
Maya I know I’m late but I’m loosing it lol I’m a grammar freak and that “too” is killing me
Dien M (1 year ago)
you need to stop yelling..its iritating
ANDRE PROD (1 year ago)
I love when you are talking with all that talc in your face.... Adorable!
Laura Castro (1 year ago)
http://www.civilconversationsproject.org/ #DearMe #GetReadyWithMeChitChat
Angelica Vargas (1 year ago)
at 10:52 i was wondering were your look was going lol but it came out great!! as for independence I depend on my boyfriend to cook dinner almost every night because im cleaning and watching the baby. However i don't need him to do it i know how, he likes doing it and i hate it lol bottom line if you need to be dependent on a person for any reason that's not healthy in my opinion but if both of you can take care of your own and rely on each other for help in certain departments that's fine. Also in you are dependent on a person at the moment you don't need to feel bad about it we have all been there but you should be working on yourself so that you don't need them in future.
504CreoleCrystal (1 year ago)
Don't know how I missed this video. I've ALWAYS been super independent. I've been in a relationship for over 5 years now. It took so much for me to step back and actually be dependent on another person. Then I became disabled and I had do choice. Thank God that this man is as amazing as he is. As of 9-1-17, he is now my fiancé 😍😍
Hadassah Holder (1 year ago)
if Jada Pinkett ever gets a biopic this is her
Hadassah Holder (1 year ago)
this cut makes me want to cut my hair
TJ Funso (1 year ago)
I just watched your Fenty beauty review and based on your critiques I wanted to come and check out how you prefer to do your makeup regularly to see what you were comparing the look to, because I thought you looked stunning. After seeing this look I'm literally shocked at some of the comments you made, I think you should watch this video next to that one and then try to compair the two looks objectively.
Nicole H (1 year ago)
Well in my honest opinion depending on someone when you're in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with is I guess bad in a way unless you rarely do so. It's good to support one another, as long as it's give and take. Though unless you're married, being dependent on someone can be a bit troubling.
You are the best and help me so much! I definitely have been working on my channel on my own to help others and as bad as I want a team, that's how driven I am to keep upload self-care and positive videos instead of waiting for convenience. You've been my inspiration for your whole YT journey Maya!
Malik Shabazz (1 year ago)
I my possibly be your oldest follower, but I see you as someone although younger who is in touch with the world and brutally honest. I admire that, and I do recommend younger folks trying to find their way to watch you videos. Especially creatives.Yes I may be a bit "out of touch", but I recognize that you are brilliant. Keep doing what you doing, baby boomer are watching. God bless
Sunshine Pinay Vegan (1 year ago)
I love this segment!!!! I love you so much boo!!! 2013 I got out of a toxic relationship and in 2014 and 2015 I was going wild and I thought I was doing me but it was not healthy. In 2016 I was picking up the pieces of my bad decisions and now I am focusing on me all day lol. I love you boo. Thank you for inspiring me all day. Love always, Sunshine
Sunshine Pinay Vegan (1 year ago)
977K subscribers you go boo!
Adriana Ladislau (1 year ago)
We really have to keep that in mind "be full of yourself"
Rose Petals (1 year ago)
Interdependence is healthy, its the next level beyond independence
ItsArpitatime (1 year ago)
'Start with where you are & you will be handed more' - I like that Maya! I really love these sessions with you.
anon_sls (1 year ago)
This video got me wanting to send that "we need to talk" text...
Chadvee (1 year ago)
i'm surprised your channel isn't bigger as you really do know how to give out strong messages and the audience can really relate to you ! having a post 25 yr old crisis myself (I am 26), I am so glad I fell on your channel! thank you so much! Love <3
Lesly Portillo (1 year ago)
I think it's good to depend on each other bc when you're in a relationship you want to have a balance of receiving when the other person whats to give and be able to give. I have a hard time with my boyfriend when it comes to him helping me and me helping him. We try to take care of each other but don't let the other person give us their help if that makes sense. So balance is good but never let yourself be so dependent to the point where you are lost if the relationship ends up not working out.
xgliix (1 year ago)
You gave so many important advice , you gained a new subscriber!
Bisous By Ghislaine (1 year ago)
You are a gem ✨✨✨
Bisous By Ghislaine (1 year ago)
You are a gem ✨✨✨
MissKekeStyle (1 year ago)
"BEAT MY FACE AND GET OUT THIS PLACE" LOL... LOVE THIS VIDEO!!!
Aimee Storrs (1 year ago)
Who disliked this video?!
UkanaMua (1 year ago)
Best advice is to go to the word to truly understand independence when it comes to relationship.
Kiana Rivera (1 year ago)
Your video was awesome! thanks so much for sharing.
Randomly Oni C (1 year ago)
Lmao at "I use to break SHIIIIAT"!!! This video is so awesome and much needed. I just got married in March and immediately moved to an entire new state with my husband. Legit felt like all of my independence I worked so hard for had just been taken---BUT I had to realize and still realizing that was not the case. It's okay to depend but set limits to that dependence. I choose to depend on you for certain things but if need be, I can do it. I support you but I have to support me first and foremost. I feel like it takes time to know the boundaries and limitations to dependence. Trial and error, too.
LifeAsMia (1 year ago)
Gems.
Adrianne Monique (1 year ago)
This video is so motivating. I feel energized! Thank you Maya! We love you girl.
IvyBean (1 year ago)
I think having a partner you CAN depend on when you need it and being open to their help when it is truly helpful is healthy. Having a partner that gives you support in a unique way is enriching, but there needs to be a balance there. And I also think it helps to have at least 2 ppl in your life that you can get specific types of support from. Aside from that, work toward being your own best friend too.
Love Freedom (1 year ago)
I heard this message regarding relationships once that stuck with me. In emotional development there are three stages that humans generally go through. The first is dependence - the illustration here was a baby and its parent. As a baby, the child relies on the parent for everything because the parent's care is essential to its survival. Eventually that baby grows older and reaches the second stage - independence. The child starts wanting to exert autonomy over its choices - dressing and feeding him/herself, walking, and not always complying with what he or she has been asked to do. The third and final stage is interdependence, illustrated as two adults that are considering marriage. Neither can rely on the other to fill their every need, as that is unhealthy dependence, and neither can rely on him/herself to fill every need, as independence is wonderful but a relationship requires a joining of two people. Interdependence is two healthy, complete, emotionally mature people who could easily be independent but choose to sacrifice some of their personal preferences and freedoms for the sake of the other. The pastor (Paul Sheppard) gave a second illustration for this one based on the verse that says we should not be unequally yoked. Imagine two oxen are yoked together but one is always pulling the other one along, doing all the work because the other is not as strong (dependence) - both oxen will only go in circles. If they are more concerned about going their own way than walking together (independence) they won't make any progress at all. They must be two disparate, competent beings of equal strength with shared goals (interdependence) that actively choose to walk together.
Love Freedom (1 year ago)
@shamelessmaya
jarose29 (1 year ago)
I livessssssss for these talks!!! 😘😘😘💋💋love you Ms.Maya!
YJ M (1 year ago)
Maya you literally cracked me up when you are trying hard to keep talking while putting up the fine powder XD
Breeah Carey (1 year ago)
Great video! Love you Maya!
Kadreanna Shakay (1 year ago)
OMG Maya you was a cocktail waitress? I just started three weeks ago at a casino ! & Honey I tell ya! 😩 lol the tips are amazing tho !
CosmoHippie (1 year ago)
Interdependence is key. Humans are not independent creatures - we thrive in a social circle, and healthy interdependence is a great goal in a relationship, where you can support each other when necessary. ;)
Zehratu - (1 year ago)
6:57 So true. This year i have decided that i will do something with my YouTube channel. I truly have passion towards art and filming/editing. And let MY MESSAGE HEAR THE WORLD! Last 4 years i did work only to have money and be more independent. And not to ask for it. I live with my parents but i feel even that can change. Im at the very begin, but as i took the first step it feels so good. Im more inspired than the 4 years in total. I believe i will connect people, that is my main goal when walking this road. Knowing that i would have struggles, people will try to demotivate me, yes they are, at my nearest. But hey, I trust in myself and God. And since the beginning He is with me. Only He.
Queenmandi1 (1 year ago)
Yeesssss Maya say it girl. I said the same thing. Even though my last breakup was due to the actions of my ex, I played a part in that relationship and there was something for me to learn. I took a break and worked on the way I communicated my anger because like you I used to yell and break shit and I no longer do that
Katie Maria (1 year ago)
LOVE!!! LOVE!!! LOVE!!! Everything about this! Great talk about independence and boundaries! Thank you!
Kimberly Kyi (1 year ago)
Depending on people can be a good and bad thing depending on the person you're depending on. 🤗☺️. I'm very dependent on my parents and watching your videos made me want to be independent but I have no job and I'm currently in college and I try to get a job but I get rejected and sometimes it's just fear 😨😭😭. Sometimes it's a religious/cultural restriction 😓
Androgynous Beauty (1 year ago)
Shameless your like the big sis i never had! I really want to start my channel but have been making so many excuses why i'm not ready. Thanx girl love ya!
Lady Shavon (1 year ago)
trick I love you 😙😙😙😙😙
LRissa19 (1 year ago)
That's true sometimes support can be control and you gotta keep your backbone.
Jumie Anne (1 year ago)
You are awesome Maya😍😍😍
Sai Earth (1 year ago)
I love you
Beauty and The Bible (1 year ago)
This video was so comical to me. It made me laugh and I don't think it was supposed to. But, that's what makes you, you. Great, video! The white powder on the face. Hilarious! 😂👀😳
u are so amazing to watch n listen to, u are an inspiration
aaaviewer1 (1 year ago)
The intro and background beat though ^_^
Nolaa Emàn (1 year ago)
So does this mean you've changed your views on marriage? Just curious since you mentioned it a few times as if it's a possibility for you and I know it your video with Fran you said you didn't believe in marriage. Either way I admire how you are so true to yourself and so helpful to others and I adore your channel I'm just interested in if your view has changed
Jahshona Goddard (1 year ago)
loving you Maya!
Tyme Out with Ty (1 year ago)
You so funny! I definitely think interdependence is a good thing. Your absolutely right, marriage was out of necessity back in the day. I totally agree - you can't lose yourself in the relationship- you should have your own purpose and passions aside from your spouse. It seems that makes a relationship great! I love your journey!!!! I can so resonate with it! BTW: I'll be starting my motivational speaking business soon! What defines success. I luv your channel, thank you! You're fabulous!
Schuyler Elizabeth (1 year ago)
Why haven't I had you in my life for all these yeeeeeeaaarrrssss omg! You are beautiful! 😘😘😘😘
Vicki Jones (1 year ago)
wise and positive message....do you know Issae Rae?
Minelva Martijn (1 year ago)
I Love you maya!!! You are so funny and inspirational <3 <3 <3
Kairit Vant (1 year ago)
Looking great, gal
ThatGuy LST (1 year ago)
U bout to hit that million SUB Maya.... Inspiring (^_^)
Loa's Life (1 year ago)
It's a bad thing to depend on others you'll end up real disappointed... love with out expectation of anything in return
Nouf (1 year ago)
Please put the Arabic translation on your videos, especially on videos tech talk and makeup videos 💙💙💙💙 because I'm not good in English language 💙I love you so much
Nouf (1 year ago)
Give my comment like if you read it shameless 💙
Dorothy James (1 year ago)
I'm so glad I started my channel I'm still a small YouTuber but can't wait for my channel to grow. Your story is so inspiring. I always love this chit chat videos. 😊
Darielle Grant (1 year ago)
Thank you for this video.Thank you so much
Sips of Yanitee (1 year ago)
So I'm in a relationship where my partner and I share life's burdens and a unit, because both have areas of strength and areas of weakness. Some of our friends call us a true Ying Yang. The interdependence makes us stronger as well as provides us with more growth opportunities.
Claudine.J (1 year ago)
BUT IT'S HAAAAAAARD (to start where I am) I'm a Makeup Artist based in Montréal,Québec, and is not that easy. I'm looking to work in makeup, but don't find nothing so I work as a retailer because I still need money...And when I find a job for one day I can't get replace at work...LIKE :( And I have a YouTube channel about makeup and hair, but I work full time and don't have time or energy to keep going. But thank you for your video I'm gonna kick my own ass a little more xx
Claudia JB (1 year ago)
6:35 "If you can't start from where you are then you are not where you need to be." 🙌🙌🙌
Jazmyne Alexander (1 year ago)
I love it , I love it I would love to meet you in person one day .
GymLioness (1 year ago)
I Haven't Been on youtube in maybe a couple of months. Today, I finally had the time to sit down and log on. I really feel like this video spoke personally to me . you know when god wants to communicate with you, he will find anyway to make his communications clear... I felt like you were used to communicate us... if that makes sense. I've been making excuses why I can't launch my business, why I can't step out my comfort zone.... I don't have this I need that blah blah blah... if I'm really passionate about my craft left it sail. have faith and be passionate about your craft and let it sail... the tools will come. thank you!!!
Federica Rotta (1 year ago)
Best music ever, dub!!!1
Goddess Jnu (1 year ago)
I thought that was for cleaning your face not putting on makeup
Angelica (1 year ago)
Maya , you look like a ghost at 9:26 lol. This was a great video. I like listening to Heather Lindsey. She talks a lot about relationships. I think our first person to depend on is God, not ourselves or anyone else,but Him. Let's keep Him first. Then we should depend on our spouse because after all, if you guys are married, then they become your helpmate. They are to just come along and help you work out your purpose. So I think it's fine to depend on your spouse for support as long as you're depending on God first and not man.
Life As De'Sha (1 year ago)
13:02 That shhhhhhiiittttt took me out! I know that's real
NaTasha M. Kilgore (1 year ago)
OMG I was dying laughing as Maya was putting that powder stuff on her face. She almost choked 😂😂😂.
Annice (1 year ago)
As an actor, I don't even hear "no". I hear NOTHING. I'll submitsubmitsubmit and not hear back at all. I can't even remember the last time I went out for an audition. I'm trying my best to stay strong, but it is toooough! I started creating my own content. I made a short film & let me tell ya, it was a LEARNING experience. I'm not gonna give up, because I want to be an actor so bad. I've always been an independent person, but when it comes to my career, I'm still learning to channel my independence through that. In this industry, it's easy to feel helpless.
Rittitz (1 year ago)
You are the best Maya! Thank you for this video, I was definitly needing to hear your wisdom girllll!! :D answering your question I think it's just a matter of balance. It can be positive to depend (regarding your feelings, and not your money) on someone if we talk about a healthy and true relationship. Having someone that you can trust and someone that you know has your back its an amazing feeling. So maybe you can depend somehow on that person. But this is a deep issue that has so many diferent prespectives..
B Wil (1 year ago)
question: how can you be a christian and yet explore your creativity without messing up your relationship with christ? can the be a discussion next please thanks
B Wil (1 year ago)
stay single until u sort ur ish out
I love your videos! I'm always like yessss a new video 😊
L Acklin (1 year ago)
Pastor Maya!!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Shameless Maya (1 year ago)
😂😂😂😂 Pastor Shameless in the building!! I legit have thought about becoming one 😂😂😂😂😂
Danni Sapp (1 year ago)
There is no such thing. What it does mean is that you need to eliminate the "weak" who can't handle your strength. Fragile egos are always blabbering about someone being too independent. Just tell them to HUSH!
IndoHati Carol (1 year ago)
Hello Maya ....Single and not dating"over 4 years" here....I like not being told what to do and enjoying my independence ...my ex husband of over 21 years,controlled me way too much and I was his slave basically.🙄I didn't get anything back from him,he did only what was expected and nothing more.I allowed myself to be treated like that too,so I'm to blame also.I guess I am so scared of being in a toxic relationship again,that I'd rather be alone and I'm not looking anyways.Maybe I will be forever single?Idk?Like you said also ...you have to work on you first,and I am still a work in progress.Great videos,thank you ❤💪🏻✌🏻👑💄I enjoy every one.
IndoHati Carol (1 year ago)
Shameless Maya thank you so much for the reply back Maya.Yes,so true ...All you said.I am happy single,I guess,for now.When I see people with drama and too much of it,in a relationship...it definitely gets me to think,no thank you.lol😃😄Keeping men at a distance is best for me,given how men are today .Maybe one day God will bring me a man worthy of putting up with my bull💩👈🏻🤓And that will raise me up,not bring me down .🙏🙏👍🏻✌🏻💖Have a great week.
Shameless Maya (1 year ago)
GIRLLLL!!!! I feel you on this one. I did as much work as I could on myself but ultimately we also learn about who we are through our relationship and interaction with others. I thought I worked out all my ish until I got serious with my boyfriend. I haven't but he's been so awesome and has been helping me through it. Your life is whatever you believe it to be. If you believe and want to be single forever then you will and can. But if you believe and want to be in a healthy relationship then you will and can. You just need to believe and put in the work.
R-lin 2 (1 year ago)
I love these videos so much, Thanks for this one!
Richmond Sajini (1 year ago)
I believe independence is a good thing. I think in life it is good to be able to trust people to do things for us if they so wish, but never to build dependence on them to do it for us.
Anthoney Ferrell (1 year ago)
SETTING SRAY
Raven (1 year ago)
Yes Maya! "Start where you are, use what you have" by Arthur Ashe is one of my favorite quotes. YOU have to take responsibility for where you are and where you want to be in life.
Tami Wright (1 year ago)
Love Love your videos. U Beautiful and yes its coming 1 million girl. I remember I found your channel when you cut all your hair off. Been a die heart fan since then. My inspiration thanks for always being positive no matter what n Be U and stay Beautiful. 🤗😍💗💚💖
AJay Smiles (1 year ago)
Dependency has a limit. You shouldn't be so independent that you make your partner feel pointless. Like you can completely live without them. Everyone wants to feel wanted.

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